To take our names off of the current headstones and be interred together somewhere else doesn't seem right either.

Dear Eric: My wife and I married two years ago. We were both widowed after long happy marriages and feel blessed that we have found each other.

"How can we recognize our current and former spouses in our final resting places? I just want my second, happy, marriage recognized, as well as my first, happy, marriage."

In each case, the headstone includes the surviving spouse’s name and birth year (of course, no death year yet!). So, when my wife and I die, we would be interred with our first spouses, with no reference to second spouses.